MEDIATION / COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE COMMONALITIES AND DIFFERENCES
COMMONALITIES
  • Parties create their own path to resolve their differences and make decisions.
  • Parties participate in direct discussion with each other to resolve differences.
  • A mediator helps contain conflict.
  • Interest based negotiations are utilized (versus positional bargaining).
  • Parties obtain knowledge and education necessary for the negotiation process.
  • A mediator attempts to facilitate a balanced, fair process.
  • A mediator makes a concerted attempt to prevent unfair tactics.
  • The process depends on honest and open disclosure of information.
  • The mediator strives for a balance between the parties and can offer support to a weaker party if necessary.

DIFFERENCES
  • Collaborative Divorce is an interdisciplinary team approach that integrates specialists as part of the process.
  • Parties are coached individually and together to obtain skills needed for the negotiation process.
  • The focus is on the health of the whole family; during and after the divorce.
  • The children are given a voice: a child specialist advocates for them and helps parents create a parenting plan that takes children's needs into consideration.
  • Parties are given additional support and an opportunity to gain knowledge and skills necessary for negotiation and four-way meetings by having a personal divorce coach.
  • The integrative process provides additional structure to contain conflict, change destructive behaviors and create positive change in the family.

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